I have "The Gifted Dyslexic" and have been trying to go through the Perceptual Ability Assessment and the Alignment procedure with my son who is 10 and it is not going well. When trying the assessment he couldn't seem to get any pictures to stay in his hand. He could give me detailed information about different things he couod imagine, but he couldn't imagine them in his hand. So I decided at that point we needed to do the Alignment rather than the Orientation.
Then when we began the Alignment procedure he had difficulty with "release." He said that it didn't make sense to him. I finally asked him to just do what I said without understanding it. He did and then he seemed to be able to relax, until the point I said feel his toes from the inside. He opened his eyea and somewhat upset said he just didn't get it. I tried to move him on, but by that time I was starting to get a bit frustrated with the process as well. I wanted to stop but he wanted to keep going. So we did. He said he couldn't get the feeling of getting up while still sitting down. I tried to give him time, but often if he doesn't get something right away he gets upset. I then asked if he could imagine it happening and he said he could. He seemed to get the part of the imaginary him standing behind and putting his hands on the shoulders. Then I thought we were finally making progress when he opened his eyes and started asking questions wanting to know why we were doing this.. I got upset because he stopped the process before it was finished, that he had opened his eyes when I hadn't told him to. He always wants to totally understand something before he does it and won't just go with it and see how it turns out. I don't think he would have done this with someone else, but I have always tried to encourage him to ask questions when he doesn't
He's had lots of tears through this process when, I thought it was going to be easy and should help him. He really wants to do better, and wants to read better. But he wants to understand it all first, and I hardly understand it myself, even after reading through the book twice and thw process multiple times.
I'm certain that the dyslexia is his problem. His dad, who does very well covering it up, also struggles with writing words and numbers backwards or in the wrong order. Unfortunately, because he learned to cope on his own (without realizing that was what he was doing) he isn't that sympathetic or doesn't know how to help him either.
So should I try the alignment process again? What can I do differently? He says that he has a hard time imagining thinga with his eyea closed. He says when he closes his eyes it is just black, but he can imagine lots of things with his eyes open. Is it okay if he does this with his eyes open? Does opening his eyes reset everything or do I just nees to gently remind him to close them and keep going with things? Is there any harm in doing the spell reading with him befoee henis aligned? I've done it a bit with his Bible verses and it seems to help some.
I just desperately want to help my son and also don't want to mess him up or create any more problems for him. I have done a lot of phonics work with him over the last 5 years believing it was the right thing, and it was so disheartening to find that all of that was the absolute wrong thing to be doing. Any guidance and encouragement would be greatly appreciated.
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I empathize and sympathize with you! I'm just getting started with my 6 yr old. It's difficult to work with your own child and teachers don't understand. I didn't know that phonics instruction is not very useful. Be encouraged! I'm sure it will all work out.